This might end up as some sort of partial philosophy thesis.
Why men/women cast nets.
By Joyce T.
It all boils down to one word: loneliness
Human beings do not stand alone. We’re constantly seeking out groups/cliques/categories to belong to. We label ourselves. We HAVE to move in packs.
If one is alone, he/she feels compelled by social stigma to find one or more individuals to bond so that he/she does not feel “loser-ish”.
What CK did was a classic, textbook case of “needing” someone by his side. We could put it down to several possible reasons:
1) He may be the only one, or one of the few ‘leftovers’ in his social circle and feels the need to fit in with the rest of his friend, thus, needing a partner. Nothing morally wrong with that. It is a natural process.
2) His biological clock is ticking, and his evolutionary instincts are telling him to find the ‘right’ one—the person who he deems fit to be the mother of his future child who would carry on his ‘fine genes’. This again, has nothing morally wrong about it. Merely survivor of the fittest. If he doesn’t find someone, he would be deemed useless in our ecosystem and in the next generation of evolution, his type/genes will be lost.
3) He could be a stereotypical male-human being in our society, the kind who only thinks with their dick, in which case, he would be a dick himself and that is morally wrong. This reason is most easily determined by behavioural symptoms. However, we do not have enough evidence to establish if CK is acting upon his manly instincts.
4) Other reasons that I could not think of on my teeny tiny puny brain. Not at this time, without any caffeine infused into my bloodstream.
Similarly, women are guilty of the same above charges, not so much of (3), but we certainly cannot say there aren’t any. We’ve to give them the benefit of the doubt that they are doing this sub-consciously. Suppose X is dating A,B,C and D and finally ends up with E, we cannot accuse X of being a promiscuous bitch/dick. We have to consider the possibility of A,B,C and D not being the right fit and X needs to go on these dating rounds to finally determine that E is for him/her. We could cross-reference to points (1) and (2) above-mentioned and just blame it on evolution.
In conclusion, if CK sincerely meant no harm in doing what he did, the only reaction would be to accept that you were part of a “biological experiment”, suck thumb and let go.
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